Hard to date due to high expectations

From my experience, I had difficulties with dating.
List of things that made me who I am…

1) Difficulty finding a real alpha men who can make me submissive.
-Has to have looks like an alpha (180cm, not too thin, healthy tan skin)
-> Difficulty being submissive to men in general
Reason: Personally, don’t take them seriously. Find them unattractive. Don’t think their interest in me is genuine and comes from a real place (unless it’s very visible)
What I find difficult to understand, is that “feeling” can increase and get stronger with time.
My understanding of men, is that “they know within 10 seconds to 5 minutes whether they want to marry or feel like it their person”
Therefore, if they are not giving me that ‘energy’ of interest and passion, I don’t really take them very seriously.
If the men does show interest in a quick time, I tend to open myself up pretty quickly. I fail to act coy and make myself more “desire-able”.

Why I don’t act “desire-able” is because I feel like men and other people should take me as I am.
Also, isn’t that what everybody tells you to do?
“BE YOURSELF” if being myself makes me less attractive to the majority of men, I guess that is what it is, and I will accept it.

2) The issue arises because I DO want to be attractive to men.
But ofcourse, not ALL men, but maybe a good 35%
I want to be attractive to alpha males, not gold diggers who are into the flashy and glitz.

That’s why I started to reading all these posts about “what rich men really want”
To be honest, they all say they want a pretty women that dresses appropriately and has good manners and is easy to love.
Personally I think I dress very decently; even mature looking-ly
But I think my weakness is in the fact that I don’t really allow men to be men.

3) To allow men to be men
What the fuck does that even mean.
To be, you have to be MEN to let me even treat you as MEN that you dearly want to be.
Let me actually reflect, and think what I do when I do treat them as MEN
Wait, have I actually let them…? Because I am having a hard time remembering.
1. I act shy: I lower my voice volume and have a flirty gesture and expressions
2. I act slower: I walk slowly, speak slowly waiting them to make the first move
3. I say thank you and really just “receive” from them and don’t try to feel guilty about it or prove them that I can pay or do things as well.
4. I ask for help: I tell them if they can walk a bit to my left and not on the hilly side, I tell them if they can hold something for me.

4) Does it work when I act 1 ~ 4
Yes. A guy did tell me that my personality changed from before. And that is because I opened myself up a bit too quickly.
I got comfortable too quickly = I had sex too soon.

The moment I have sex, it’s like men. I don’t feel the need to try harder because I got the cookie.
When I get the cookie, I start to think “hmm. It wasn’t too bad I think I’ll be able to get another one from him soon.”
I got to know him too quickly…

5) Why sex = get to know him too quick
1. You get to see his body
2. You get him vulnerable bc it’s literally the most primitive act you can do as a human
3. You get the kiss
4. There is no “suspense” after sleeping with him

Solution:
1. Stay away from having sex too early
2. Try to find my female archetype and study what my strength is as a women (since being a siren or a mystic isn’t my strongest feature)